Sarrah,
Love is a very complicated, four-letter word. The Bible says that Love covers a multitude of sin. It also says that nothing can separate us from the love of our Father God.
In fact, one of my favorite verses out of the whole Bible is from Romans 8:14-16. It says:
“For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God. The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship [or daughtership]. And by him we cry, “Abba, [Daddy] Father.” The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children.”
Our Father went through a lot to get us. Sin is what separates us from Him. Since God is holy, sin cannot stand in His presence. He needed to get rid of our sin so that we could become His children. The only way to do that was to cover it with the blood of a spotless, blameless, lamb – The Lamb of God: Jesus. So He sent His only Son, Himself, to die on a cross for our sin.
Think about what earthly adoptive fathers have to go through in order to receive their new daughters and sons.
1) They allow strangers into their house to look through their drawers and ask them personal questions that no one on earth has the right to know (This is called a Home Study).
2) Adoptive fathers and mothers are finger-printed and ran through a nationwide database to make sure they are not criminals or wanted by the law.
3) These same perspective parents have their finances evaluated to make sure they can financially care for the new addition to their families.
4) They are psychologically evaluated to make sure they will not hurt their new child.
5) Adoptive parents are required to go to health and safety classes to make sure they can give CPR to their new child and be able to dress a wound.
6) They are given “parenting classes” to make sure they understand how to raise a child correctly.
7) Hopeful fathers and mothers must pay tens of thousands of dollars for all of this and then also to travel to the place where there child is.
8) These new parents are given a list of potential children to adopt and they must “choose” the right child.
9) Then they must go through an agonizing wait in hopes of the adoption being accepted by the baby’s origin country authorities.
10) Finally, when approved many adoptive parents spend more money to fly halfway around the world to a strange land where they don’t know anyone, can’t speak the language and put themselves at the mercy of people they don’t know to lead them to their new child.
All of these things and more must be accomplished by adoptive fathers and mothers whose hearts will go through anything to bring their child home.
Not to diminish the birth of a natural child to their parents, but ask yourself Sarrah – which is easier?
It is only after the new child comes home that the gleeful new parents subject themselves to the routine of changing dirty, stinky and sometimes runny diapers. Like loving parents the world over, these parents will be thrown up on, stay up all night with their sick child, worry about and play with their child.
As the child grows, these parents will unconditionally love that child. They will discipline her or him and they will teach them what it means to be a good person.
Like every other kid in the world, the child will grow up not understanding just how very much her parents loved her until she herself has kids. Because that kind of love cannot really be understood until your own heart is stretched by the love of your very own child, adoptive or otherwise.
Never forget Sarrah how much we love you. Don’t let anyone tell you anything different. We choose you, we went for you, we ached to have you home with us. You are our daughter in every way.
And also never forget how much God the Father loves us. He ached just as much to have us as His children.
How blessed you are to have both His and our love. You are special.
Dad & Mom